The Addictive Personality

Part of addiction is an inner struggle within the addict. While the presence of some people may "get on the nerves" of the addict, there is a simultaneous craving for human connectedness. The addict wants/craves to be around people of his choosing.

If family or friends that are trying to help the addict try to connect, they are seen as being nosy. Have you ever heard "Why you trying to be up in my business?" Of course, if it is your son or daughter they are your business and you are doing nothing wrong. But you can tread this stage of addiction carefully.

It is important to be there. Sometimes you do not have to say anything, but letting your teen know you are a phone call away is extremely reassuring. You may be met with the silent treatment or even worse outbursts of anger and attacks on your dignity. Remain calm. Remember this teen loves you and depends on your support. You may be the only stabilized force in his life. Do not try and make sense out of the addicts behavior. Addiction does not bode logic. You do not share the addicts reality. Trying to reason with someone like this is a losing battle. Do not get drawn into the "fight". Be strong and although cliche-- take the high road.